How to Have Hope in Desperate Times Pt 3

In order to have hope in desperate times, we have to start with taking a GOOD look in the mirror.
It’s crucial to be really honest when we do. That honesty must extend to both the traumas we (and our ancestors) have endured and the traumas we (and our ancestors) have enacted.

In this video I posted to Youtube and TikTok, I touched on the topic of looking into the mirror and addressing the shadows or traumas we might find there.

I have talked and written before about “shadow work” and how it can start with some basic “inner child” work.

When I reference inner child work, I’m talking about a variety of exercises that help us get back in touch with who we were before we were hurt.

When we can relate to ourselves as innocent children, it’s easier to give ourselves the grace it takes to move through the healing process.

Process, adventure, roller-coaster ride, or white-knuckle, hang-on-for-dear-life rafting trip down the river of life.

Most of us have been hurt and have hurt others. We’ve got to move through all of it to get healing.

One of the things I haven’t talked about before is epigenetics. Do a little research on that if you want, but the definition for epigenetics is the study of how your behaviors and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work according to the CDC.

Most of the research we hear about has to do with how being enslaved for 400 years of ancestry affects the genetics of Black Americans.

Does it make you wonder what 400 years of enslaving people openly in a society does to the genes of the people doing the enslaving? Or is that just me?

My point is, we don’t ONLY have the effects of our own traumas (both suffered and inflicted). We also have to deal with those of our ancestors.

When we have the privilege of being able to access that information, it’s worthwhile to do so as a part of our personal journey.

The unfortunate truth for white, American women is that there is a high likelihood we had ancestors who were involved in enslaving people.

We have the power to heal the wounds of all the generations when we do the work, but if we refuse to acknowledge and repair the harm, we put the burden of that worsening damage on the shoulders of our children, like ancestors before may have done to you.

Now, we are at a critical time in the history of the universe and you can decide to either be grounded in truth or to float away with the hot-air promises of white wealth and supremacist capitalism.

Like I said in my last post, sometimes we have to dig through the muck to find the treasure, but we have to look at it first. And sometimes the muck itself IS the treasure!

Just like we have to look at our inner child before we were hurt to give ourselves the grace to move through healing, we might also need to look at our ancestry before our ancestors were “hurt”, often pre-Christianity. If you have the privilege and can trace your ancestry to a place on the planet, it’s amazing to consider how they might have interacted with the landscape and each other.

I’m not here to make you feel bad.

The exact opposite, in fact.

I’m here to share with you how you can also have hope in this stressful reality. But love doesn’t mince the truth. Love celebrates the truth, or works WITH it instead of against, despite, or outside of it.

If you aren’t healing (and truth helps with that) then it’s actually dangerous for you to be out in the world proclaiming you have solutions, answers, or a healing balm.

Get to the root of the shadows you deal with FIRST, then go share that healing with your family, friends, and sphere of influence.

In the meantime, here’s a quick cheat code for you: Black women globally have been excelling in a world that generally hates them for hundreds of years. They have a LOT of wisdom about how to build a Divine world.

As we are facing the overturning of Roe V. Wade and other landmark human rights protection cases, Black women have been preaching the solutions for generations.

Another Cheat Code: the solution politically speaking is Abolition & Mutual Aid which both require Direct Action. Don’t worry though, I know it may take you a while to get there.

Take your time and start with YOU.

Talk soon. I love you.

QUESTION(s) OF THE DAY — Do you think your “shadows” could be related to your current situation? If so, how?

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