A relational framework · Since 2007
Ten habits that change
every relationship you have.
Starting with the one you have with yourself. Not tips. Not shortcuts. Ten practices lived, studied, and refined since 2007 — for anyone willing to do the work of love as a daily practice.
Real change doesn't skip steps. This framework doesn't let you.
The Hart Habits are ten interdependent practices organized in four layers. Each Habit depends on the ones before it. You can't sustain hope without learning to endure. You can't protect anyone without first knowing yourself. The framework doesn't give you answers. It gives you the capacity to find your own.
FOUNDATION
Who you are and what you can see clearly
OPERATING
How you think, speak, and show up every day
EVIDENCE
What you actually do for the people you love
LONG GAME
How you keep going when it gets hard
The 10 Habits
Each one comes with an Ideal State Declaration.
Read them as the person you're becoming. Return to them as anchors when things get hard.
01
SELF
I am an exquisite and unique being. Everything flows through me and I know, love, and respect the vessel I live in.
02
TRUTH
I face objective and subjective truths head on and carry them simultaneously, even when they conflict.
03
TRUST
I choose to trust as a default because I listen to my inner voice and I know how to see and carry truth.
04
THOUGHTS
I allow and direct my thoughts to focus on those things that I want to attract more of.
05
TALK
I use my words to exponentially strengthen and uplift myself and others.
06
NON-VERBALS
I keep my cool physically when faced with a tough situation. It gives me time to process before I respond.
07
SHOW
I give my inner world a form I can see, hear, touch, and show when it's time.
08
PROTECT
I protect myself and others from my feelings and judgements and I protect my secrets and theirs from the rest of the world.
09
ENDURE
I consistently implement realistic small steps towards my vision.
10
HOPE
I maintain or find hope, even when it's not easy.
Say it out loud. Say it until it's true.
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Guiding Principles
01
Love requires growth, not change.
You don't have to become someone else. You have to become more of who you already are.
03
Love is Liberation.
When you do it consistently, you get free. And so do the people around you.
02
Love is a Practice.
It is not a state you arrive at. It is something you do: repeatedly, imperfectly, intentionally.
04
Love Never Fails.
It's not wishful thinking. It's what happens when you actually live it.