The Hart Habits
Ten practices. Four layers. One question.
How do you actually implement love in real life, all the time, not just when it's easy? The Hart Habits are the answer — organized in four interdependent layers, each one building on the one before it.
How the framework is organized
Four layers. Each one depends on the others.
Layer 01 — Foundation
Before anything else — there's you.
The Foundation layer is where everything starts. SELF and TRUTH are the two Habits that every other Habit depends on. You cannot navigate relationships accurately without knowing who you are. You cannot trust your own judgement without being able to see clearly. Most people skip this layer in a hurry to fix what is broken. The Hart Habits start here on purpose.
Layer 02 — Operating
This is what people actually experience when they're with you.
The Operating layer is where the Foundation becomes behavior. How you think, what you say, and what your body communicates are all shaped by how well you know yourself and how clearly you can see. TRUST, THOUGHTS, TALK, and NON-VERBALS are the four Habits you practice most visibly, in every room you walk into, in every conversation you have.
Layer 03 — Evidence
Love has to go somewhere. This is where it shows up.
The Evidence layer is where love becomes something people can actually see. SHOW is the practice of making your inner world visible — to yourself first, to others when it is time. PROTECT is the practice of guarding what you and others have made visible. Together they are the proof that the Foundation and Operating layers are working.
Layer 04 — Long Game
This is what you're made of when things get hard and stay hard.
The Long Game layer is where everything you have built gets tested. ENDURE is the practice of showing up consistently when the outcome is not yet visible. HOPE is the result of doing that long enough to trust the process. Neither one is possible without the eight Habits that came before them. And when both are present, they renew the entire framework from the beginning.
Ten habits that change every relationship you have.
Starting with the one you have with yourself.