Foundation Layer · Habit 2 of 10
02TRUTH
I face objective and subjective truths head on and carry them simultaneously, even when they conflict.
Say it out loud. Say it until it’s true.
Where are you right now?
TRUTH has a range. Most people move across it throughout their lives.
Judgemental
Open Minded
When TRUTH needs attention
It can feel safer to stay close to people who see things the way you do. Other perspectives feel threatening rather than informative. Holding someone else’s truth alongside your own feels too close to agreeing with them.
When TRUTH is strong
You can hold your own truth and someone else’s conflicting truth at the same time without needing to resolve them. You understand that two things can be true simultaneously — and that this is not a contradiction. It is just reality.
Moving back toward the struggling side is not failure. That is the practice. The declaration exists for exactly those moments.
TRUTH is the lens. What you see determines everything you do next.
TRUTH is not about being right. It is about being honest — with yourself and with the people around you — about what is actually true versus what you feel is true. Those are not always the same thing. And holding both at the same time, without collapsing one into the other, is one of the hardest things a person can learn to do.
Most of us were taught that truth is singular. That there is one version of what happened, one correct interpretation, one right answer. The Hart Habits disagree. There are always at least two truths operating in any situation. The work is learning to carry both.
TRUTH builds directly on SELF. You can only see clearly what you are willing to look at honestly — and that requires knowing yourself first. TRUTH then feeds TRUST. You can only trust as well as you can see.
OBJECTIVE TRUTH
The facts. What actually happened, what can be verified, what exists independent of how anyone feels about it. Objective truth does not care about your interpretation. It just is.
SUBJECTIVE TRUTH
What it means to you. How it lands. What it feels like from where you are standing. Subjective truth is not less real than objective truth — it is just a different kind of real. Both matter. Both belong in the conversation.
How true is this for you right now?
Find out where you already are.
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I face objective and subjective truths head on and carry them simultaneously, even when they conflict.
Say it out loud. Say it until it’s true.
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