How to Stop Letting Anxiety and Negative Thoughts Ruin Your Life Pt. 8

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Have you heard the verse “The Truth Will Make You Free” ?

Have you wondered why it hasn’t made you feel free from your anxiety and negative thoughts yet? 

This is the eighth in a series about how to STOP letting anxiety and negative thoughts control and ruin your life.

I’m going to share the secret about the truth that the people in charge never wanted us to know. 

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00:00 Intro

00:39 Topic Intro

01:23 Why do some truths invoke anxiety and negative thoughts?

01:45 TL/DW: Here’s the solution

03:07 What is truth?

03:19 Objective Truth

03:56 Subjective Truth 

06:37 Duality of Truth

06:51 Plurality of Truth

07:51 Here’s the Point

Have you heard the saying before that the truth will set you free?
So, why hasn’t it set you free yet from your anxiety and negative thoughts?
That was the question I asked myself when I began this process and the secrets I uncovered are exactly what the people in charge never wanted any of us to know or understand.

Why do some truths invoke anxiety and negative thoughts?

“The truth will make you free.”
Our white American society was built on hiding and avoiding the truth of slavery, and the fact that we enslaved human beings for the purposes of hoarding, building, and generating wealth for ourselves to the exclusion of everybody else, even the people that actually did the building.
We did that for 400 years. 400 years! How many generations of people happen in 400 years?
What do you think that 400 years of hiding and avoiding very apparent visible truths might do to a society?
What about when we shrink all of that truth down into our daily lives?
The fact that we don’t know how to celebrate the truth is chilling but it also explains a lot about why we suffer so much anxiety and negative thinking.

TL / DW: Here’s the solution​

At the beginning of the process that became the Hart Habits (the 10-habit framework I created) one of the passages I came across was “love celebrates truth.”
I had to consider the meaning of the word “CELEBRATE”.
What do we do when we’re celebrating something?

In this society, when we want to celebrate something we

  • put it on a stage
  • shine lights on it
  • put up billboards about it
  • fly planes with banners overhead
  • make a big deal
  • highlight all the good things about it
  • take the time to notice and
  • PAY ATTENTION TO IT

        What is truth?

        When discussing truth, I like to talk about two different types of truth “Objective Truth” & “Subjective Truth”.

        Objective Truth

        I’ll dive into objective truth first so; objective truths are truths that we would generally agree on as a group of people or as a society.
        We typically agree on these things being true together.
        Usually, objective truths we agree on are based on facts, data, evidence, and statistics.
        We like things like numbers and science that we see as hard or unchanging to agree on objective truths.
        The sky is blue, the grass is green, etc.
        In reality, there are very few completely objective truths. Most things become subjective as soon as we receive and process the information for ourselves.

        Subjective Truth

        The subjective truths are those truths that are subject to our personal interpretation.
        These truths come through our reality – our eyes, ears, or senses and go into our brain to be processed and then interpreted by our heart, soul, or spirit as true.
        It sounds super deep but in fact, it’s very simple stuff that we just don’t learn in our regular day-to-day life.
        I’ve talked about it before when I talked about the reticular activating system and how the brain can lie to us to keep us believing that our reality is what we expect it to be.
        If you don’t believe me, watch the show Brain Games on National Geographic. It will give you fun examples of how our brains do this for us and why it serves a great purpose – to stay alive, survive, and thrive in this environment, and finally, how it can benefit us.
        If we know how to use it, it can benefit us even more and if we don’t know how to use it, it can be a detriment to us because it wants to keep us safe above everything else.
        So, these subjective truths come into my brain.
        I process them based on what my experiences are, what I know and what my knowledge is.
        Now, I believe something to be true.
        A subjective truth might be:
        I think I’m a tall woman.
        I am five foot eight inches. That’s pretty tall compared to many women.
        I am often one of the taller women in a room full of women. There’s probably even a statistic somewhere that says I’m “above average” height.
        However, I might think I’m tall but then I’m with a girlfriend who is six foot seven inches. They might look at me and think “you are not tall, you are small.”
        That would be true for both of us, right?
        It’s true for me that I’m tall, because in a room I generally look over the women’s heads.
        But for that other individual who’s much taller than me, I am small and that’s also totally true.
        So, how can I be both tall and small, how can both of those things be true at the same time?
        It’s because of subjective truth!
        The truth has to come through my filter first.
        That truth had to go through the tall person’s filter.
        It’s still true for both of us even though the two truths conflict.

         

        Objective truth – we all agree on those things, based on facts, numbers, evidence, etc. I am five foot eight inches tall.
        Subjective truth – based on our personal interpretation of objective truth. I am tall and small.

         

        We call this is the duality of truth.

        Duality or Plurality of Truth?​

        Okay, like if you want to dig into google and dive deeper into this topic, you can definitely look up objective truth, look up subjective truth, and look up the duality of truth.
        I like to call it the plurality of truth though because every truth has multiple ways of looking at it.
        It’s not just my way and their way, right?
        It’s not just subjective and objective, there are many different energetic perspectives looking at any given situation.
        We can use the Bible Gospels as an easy example of this.
        You’ve got four different gospels, all based on the same story, written by four different people, at different times from different perspectives and with different messages.
        They tell different stories of the same story in different ways, right?
        And all of them are still true they’re just different based on the different perspectives of the people who are telling those truths.

        Here’s the Point​

        What’s the point in telling you about objective and subjective truth and how their truth could be the opposite of your truth and still be true?
        Even though they’re opposite of each other, because love celebrates truth when we allow other people to hold their truth and we choose to celebrate it with them, everything works better.

        That’s their truth. You’re not going to change it, so stop trying. It’s causing you anxiety and negative thinking.

        Instead, think about how you can:

        • shine a light on it

        • pay attention to it

        • highlight it 

        • understand it

        • make decisions for yourself with it in mind.

        You’re free now!

        YOU get freedom from allowing them their truth. You don’t have to change them. You don’t have to change their mind.

        You don’t have to persuade anyone to a different point of view or perspective.

        You are here to experience your perspective and to enjoy it in the best way possible and serve your highest purpose.

        Hint: gratitude does a good job of helping with that!

        Their truth being different than yours is not a problem and in fact when you can look at it honestly and celebrate (pay attention to) it, there are great side effects.

        Now, you can make better-informed decisions about:

        • How you’re going to move forward in life.

        • What you’re going to do or not do.

        • What your boundaries are.

        • What the spirit is telling you to do.

        • What your shadow or inner child might want you to do or not do.

        • How your strengths play into all of it together.

        You might have noticed I just mentioned the four components of the first Hart Habit, which is Self. I talked about these four components of knowing yourself in Parts 3 – 6 of the “Stop Letting Anxiety and Negative Thoughts Ruin Your Life” series.
        Truth is number two instead of one on the list of The Hart Habits for a reason. You’ve got to know who yourself is, love yourself,  embrace your subjective truths,  embrace what you believe to be true and you have to do all that in order to embrace what other people believe is true as well.
        Soon, you’ll get to a place where you embrace other people’s truth is true for them and deserves to be celebrated simply because you want to live a life aligned with love.
        You’ll be able to make better decisions about how you’re moving forward with people and you’ll find yourself feeling more open-minded, more enlightened, and more able to embrace all of the different truths – good, bad, and ugly – that exist in the connections and Spirit around you.
        As always, I’m so glad to have you here. If you have any thoughts from this video, drop me a comment below.
        I love you and I can’t wait to talk to you again next week. 

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